I haven't posted about this before, and quite honestly I didn't know if I would, but because it has been part of my whole "wedding planning experience" I thought I'd share it here.
Soon after my fiancé and I had become engaged we talked about who we would like to have stand up with us on our wedding day - re: Wedding Party.
My fiancé and I both had clear ideas of who these special people would be. He choose his brother as his Best Man and three childhood friends (two of which had grown up on the same street as him). I knew that I wanted to have my sister as my Matron of Honour and Pat's oldest sister as my Maid of Honour (yes, I believe you can have two people share this important role ;). I also knew that I wanted Patrick's younger sister as well as one of my childhood friends to be my bridesmaids.
Once we had decided whom we would like to ask I crafted these little cards for my gals. Each one agreed to be part of our wedding day - yippee! This was in the summer of 2006.
At that time, other than my sister, all of my 'maids lived across the country. To have everyone stay in touch and abreast of the wedding planning I painstakingly mailed out Bridesmaid Newsletters every few months. To my knowledge everything was going swimmingly and everyone was happy.
However, just before I was set to fly back to Ontario for my Future Sister-In-Law's wedding I received an email from my childhood friend (who had also remained my friend throughout high school and university…although we didn't gab on the phone as much as we did when we were kids). She told me that she would no longer like to be in our wedding and that she thought she was a "filler" bridesmaid to even out the wedding party (i.e. each of us having four attendants). She felt that I did not put enough effort into our friendship by calling her more often. In my defence I emailed her constantly, but she is more of a phone person that an email person I guess… This happened in the fall of 2007 - over a year after I had asked her to be my bridesmaid.
As you can imagine I was quite upset over this. I didn't realize that I had done anything wrong and had upset her. I asked her if she'd still like to attend and she said she would - so at least I haven't totally lost her as a friend.
Sometimes I think if I could do it all over again I would have waited to ask my attendants and perhaps only have one attendant to act as a witness and sign the marriage certificate.
At any rate, what is done is done, but it will remain a very sad memory for me and a sad time during the whole "fun and wonderful" wedding planning experience.
Soon after my fiancé and I had become engaged we talked about who we would like to have stand up with us on our wedding day - re: Wedding Party.
My fiancé and I both had clear ideas of who these special people would be. He choose his brother as his Best Man and three childhood friends (two of which had grown up on the same street as him). I knew that I wanted to have my sister as my Matron of Honour and Pat's oldest sister as my Maid of Honour (yes, I believe you can have two people share this important role ;). I also knew that I wanted Patrick's younger sister as well as one of my childhood friends to be my bridesmaids.
Once we had decided whom we would like to ask I crafted these little cards for my gals. Each one agreed to be part of our wedding day - yippee! This was in the summer of 2006.
At that time, other than my sister, all of my 'maids lived across the country. To have everyone stay in touch and abreast of the wedding planning I painstakingly mailed out Bridesmaid Newsletters every few months. To my knowledge everything was going swimmingly and everyone was happy.
However, just before I was set to fly back to Ontario for my Future Sister-In-Law's wedding I received an email from my childhood friend (who had also remained my friend throughout high school and university…although we didn't gab on the phone as much as we did when we were kids). She told me that she would no longer like to be in our wedding and that she thought she was a "filler" bridesmaid to even out the wedding party (i.e. each of us having four attendants). She felt that I did not put enough effort into our friendship by calling her more often. In my defence I emailed her constantly, but she is more of a phone person that an email person I guess… This happened in the fall of 2007 - over a year after I had asked her to be my bridesmaid.
As you can imagine I was quite upset over this. I didn't realize that I had done anything wrong and had upset her. I asked her if she'd still like to attend and she said she would - so at least I haven't totally lost her as a friend.
Sometimes I think if I could do it all over again I would have waited to ask my attendants and perhaps only have one attendant to act as a witness and sign the marriage certificate.
At any rate, what is done is done, but it will remain a very sad memory for me and a sad time during the whole "fun and wonderful" wedding planning experience.
1 comments:
Ah, yes. That's sad. I hope you two remain friends despite this hiccup. I'm sorry that happened.
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